Friends, meet Michelle. She’s a mum to five, yes five, boys and knows what it means to have life crumble and find herself in survival mode. I’m thrilled she’s guest posting today, sharing how refocusing from what God hasn’t done to what He has, and the promises He’s made, changes everything.
Odds are you understand the art of receiving a compliment and you manage the exchange well. Or there is a small chance you and I are alike, responding a bit clunky and ungraceful. Surely less complicated than I make it. I’m told, a simple thank you is all that is needed. The minute their kind words hit my ears, my mind instantly replays a scene to discredit them. If I am out running errands with my boys and someone comments on their good behavior, my first thought is well, you should have seen the mess we were a mere two minutes ago in the Target Dollar Spot. Your flight instinct would have kicked into high gear!
While it sounds funny, and it is good to be a little self-deprecating, there is truth in my humor. I know we are not perfect well-mannered little von Trapp souls marching gloriously through our day. Even when we have a good day and the truth being my boys are mostly well-behaved, I will magnify our rough moments as evidence to minimize the kind words.
I do this same thing with God.
I remember the two percent, the one time, the anomaly, the unanswered prayer, and use it as confirmation that He doesn’t care, the one no in the million everyday yeses. For all of the times he has showed up, the fires he has walked me through, I will magnify the one He didn’t. Or more accurately, when I didn’t understand what He was doing. There is more to Him than an answered prayer percentage. When I plead with Him, anxious for a response, scratch that, wanting my response through Him, and I am met with silence, it hurts.
I don’t want him to sit with me in the pain of my son’s diagnosis or my motherhood fails, I want him to make it stop. In my faltered thinking, He can take the pain and make it go away and He chooses not to. If I am not guarded, it makes me feel uncared for and unloved. If I am not careful, I make His choice a direct reflection of the depth of His love for me. If you really love me Lord, you will just.Click To Tweet
Let us magnify His good works and trust that He sees far beyond our limited perspective.
When it feels like God isn’t going to step in, or worse, when you don’t feel Him close as you have before, it is the perfect scenario for doubt to enter and for self to grow larger than He intended. My survival tactics and skills have been cultivated so well that they almost look like real living.Click To Tweet
Anxiety a norm, fear a constant, when I am not guarding both my heart and mind. I recognize this more quickly now and respond more readily with truths of what He has done in my life. The smallest of details tended to, the whole picture that was revealed in pieces over time, and the sacred moments I have felt Him shine proudly upon me with an intimacy I only access through those desperate tears.
How easy is it to forget His glorious works and goodness.
Along with God’s promises we tuck deep in our hearts for these moments, we trust in the good we have already witnessed Him work in our lives. We may still have the wind knocked out of us, we may not understand why, but we get less taken in by the mirages in our valley and more grounded in the solid truths of the One in control. We return to what we know, with practice, as naturally as we take our next breath. We exchange the boundary filled life of surviving for trust and the fullness of thriving.
God has given me an abundant, unexpected life, and no matter how often I hear and know it, I still ache for it to be carefree. When I look back the really hard things in certain seasons greatly outnumber the easy, the simple, and the constant crashing wears at a weary soul. My friend, you too? Let’s remember to see our life as its full, unedited story.
Michelle Krol is mama bear to a crew of five adventurous, hearts-of-gold boys (four of whom share a birthday), and wife to a great man who keeps her from taking life too seriously. Her passion is in encouraging mamas through sharing her real life stories from the depths of the beautifully, humbling journey that is motherhood. She writes from the fire in her soul and aims to live by the grace in her heart that is His. Find her on Instagram or Facebook.
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