Let me introduce my friend Becky McCoy. I secretly want to be her when I grow up! She really is the real McCoy folks (see what I did there?!) and I’m pumped she’s sharing on the blog today. Despite being almost 30 years my junior (yes I’m that old), her determination to be real, and her fierce love of people and God (not to mention all things ice cream and English chocolate), teach me daily how choosing to live bravely and authentically help us thrive, not just survive, when life is ridiculously hard.
Becky talks about Choosing Brave which is the first of my 7 Tools for Thriving, not just surviving, when life is hard. Pop your email in the side bar and I’ll send you your own copy of the tools so you can start thriving today – no matter how hard life is!
Read and enjoy friends. You’ll be inspired!
On an unusually hot May afternoon, my kids and I went to the beach. As my sister was playing in the water with the kids, my four-year-old took a step past the spot where the sand drops off and he immediately went under. It was deep, so he couldn’t stand up and I’d forgotten his floaty (insert sarcastic mom fail comment). My sister grabbed him and he was fine, if not a little shaken up. He marched up the beach to grab his towel and exclaimed, “Mom, I was so brave!”
At some point, we stop being able to see how brave we are and trade our courage for intimidation. We decide that we can only be brave if we climb Kilimanjaro, join the military, or sacrifice creature comforts to champion a cause.At some point, we stop being able to see how brave we are and trade our courage for intimidation. @BeckLMcCoy #choosebrave #thrivedontjustsurvive Click To Tweet
What if everything we thought about being brave was skewed by our adult need to do things “right” and be responsible? At some point in our growing up years, we seem to have decided that brave is not for ordinary people and courage has no place in our monotonous lives.
Can we just stop that?
I’m no expert, but I feel like I’ve stumbled onto some kind of mysterious secret: we all have the capacity to live bravely if we choose to.
When my dad died 8 hours after my son was born, I learned a lot about grief and living through hard things.
Two years later, my husband died while I was still pregnant with our daughter. My grief was pure survival; one foot in front of the other.
Choosing to keep moving when life gets hard is not easy. It doesn’t feel good. And it’s definitely not any fun. But it is brave.
Feeling overwhelmed at the thought of it? Me, too.
The thing is, we’ve gotten brave wrong this whole time because being brave is really just choosing to do hard things.We’ve gotten brave wrong this whole time because being brave is really just choosing to do hard things. @BeckyLMcCoy #choosebrave #thrive Click To Tweet
Would you think about that for a moment?
Are you pursuing a healthier lifestyle?
Guess what. That’s brave.
Are you choosing to parent the way you feel is best, even if it doesn’t live up to other peoples’ expectations?
That’s brave, too.
Are you showing up to work every day and choosing to have a good work ethic and integrity even when everyone else is cutting corners and having a bad attitude?
That’s crazy brave.
There are a million ways to be brave and we learn how to be brave in life’s most challenging circumstances by being brave in the day to day struggles.
I call it BIG BRAVE and little brave.
The big brave things are those life circumstances or decisions that feel impossible, but you do what needs to get done anyways.
Does it seem like everyone else already knows the secret?
Here’s the secret: there’s no secret.
Be brave in the little things. Love your family. Help your friends. Work hard. Have integrity. These things may feel like normal, ordinary, boring life, but consider them cross training for the big, fat, scary things.
Nobody gets to skip the hard stuff, but everybody can choose to be brave.
Work out your brave muscles with my Choose Brave: 5 Day Video Guide to Practicing Courage.
Becky L McCoy lives on the Connecticut coast with her two precocious and hilarious children. She once enjoyed teaching high school physics and now tells her story of loss, grief, and joyful living on her blog. Having struggled with depression and anxiety, and experienced several seasons of grief and struggle, Becky is passionate about creating an online community where people share their stories and encourage one another to choose to live bravely and authentically at BeckyLMcCoy.com and her podcast Sucker Punched (formerly Stories of Unfolding Grace).
Find Becky on Social Media: @BeckyLMcCoy
Has your life fallen apart recently? Or maybe you’re struggling to survive a long painful season and you’re feeling exhausted, alone and full of questions. If that’s you I’m so sorry. I discovered 7 Tools for Thriving when life falls apart, to help us find more of life in the mess and heart ache. You can download your free copy today. Just click on the image below. If you want to chat, just send me an email (in the contact tab) and it will land in my inbox and I’ll get back to you. Or find me on social media. Niki xxx