How are those New Years resolutions going? Did you make any? I didn’t. I knew I wouldn’t keep them.
Resolutions are so black and white, demanding success or failure, and in this uncertain world, failure to keep my resolutions is my only certainty. I end up beating myself up and feeling like a screw up, but when I’ve got enough on my shoulders I don’t need guilt and shame to hitch a ride.When I've got enough on my shoulders I don't need guilt and shame to hitch a ride. Click To Tweet
That’s why I didn’t set resolutions this year and why you shouldn’t either. Instead, I set intentions; they focus on our inner desires to move forward, not the external results of whether we did. Intentions bread hope out of desire rather than guilt out of failure.Intentions bread hope out of desire rather than guilt out of failure. Click To Tweet
If you did set resolutions why not switch them into intentions (it’s not too late) so you can offer yourself grace when you veer off the path you planned and live happily ever after. Grace isn’t an excuse for not trying, but it is forgiveness for our guilt swamped hearts – and we all need more more of that in our success driven world don’t we?
Here are some of my 2017 resolutions I turned into intentions.
In 2017 I intend to;
1.Have a daily quiet time .
Sitting down with the creator of the universe, reading the book he wrote for us, worshipping, listening, and asking for His help with all that’s wrong in the world and my life, is THE best thing I could do to kick off my day. Yet experience tells me I won’t manage everyday and that’s ok. I know He’s with me and loves me anyway. But my intention won’t change.
2.Remember to feed the dogs.
Don’t get me wrong, I love them dearly (most of the time) but I do forget to give them the basic necessities of life until they pine and beg while I cook dinner (thankfully they can reach to drink out of the loo).
3.Give thanks in all things.
When the poop hits the fan my go to response is to complain and focus on the smell, but experience tells me giving thanks is a powerful anti-grumble, anti-woe-is-me, sprit-lifting activity.
Having accidentally stolen a bra a few years ago, my intentions for this year are honest, but I can’t guarantee it won’t happen again.
5.Tell my hubby how awesome he is.
He’s a words of affirmation guy and I’m just not (check out The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman). He loves giving and receiving words of praise and encouragement, it lights him up. On the other hand I love to give gifts – small tokens of my love, like a history book or a cup of tea, but they’re water off a ducks back to him. When I eventually remember to say what a great job he’s done, or how much he means to me, it’s music to his ears.
6.Finish my sentences
Whether it’s old age, dementia of the over stretched, or my self diagnosed ADHD, I tend to start a sentence and not get round to …
What was I saying? Oh yes, I intend to,
7.Remember your name
I promise to remember your face but I can’t guarantee I’ll attach a name to it – let alone yours! I’m a visual person so names don’t stick unless they’re stapled to your forehead when we first meet.
So, you get the idea. I could keep going but you don’t need to hear about my intentions to eat more probiotic yogurt, use my indoor voice when the kids ignore me, and learn how to use the remote.
Despite all those intentions, somethings we need to commit to and follow through, come what may. So here are the promises I want to make you for the coming year.
In 2017 I promise to help you;
Keep it real I’m a WYSIWYG (what you see is what you get) kind of girl and although being real can be scary, plastic fantastic is empty, exhausting, and doesn’t suit any of us.
Laugh when you want to cry – because laughter is the best medicine (unless of course, you have an incontinence issue).
Understand how much God loves you, just as you are (even with all those crazy thoughts and stupid things you’ve done).
Live the amazingly, abundant life God has for you this year, even in the middle of all the tough, difficult, and painful things you might be wrestling with.
Speak with an English accent.
Find strength through life’s many explosions.
Grow your relationship with God through ridiculously practical prayers and exercises.
Stand on The Rock, when your life is rocked.
Love Downton Abby.
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Just for the record, here are two resolutions I will keep. In 2017 I promise to;
- Publish my book – it’s only baby one, but writing it’s been like birthing a wooly mammoth. I’m super excited for you to read it and I really, really, really hope buy it (cheesy grin face), but to rephrase Seth Goden, “it doesn’t count unless it ships.” Whether I self publish or or do an eBook, I’m setting it free to roam the world in 2017. There, I said it. Now I HAVE to do it.
- Feed the dogs, eventually.
What have you resolved to do this year? Do you tend to beat yourself up and listen to your mind talk when you don’t succeed? Can you set intentions for the year, offering yourself grace and forgiveness, knowing your intentions are good?