Welcome to week 2 of …
Feeling Weary? The Secret to Recapturing Your Get Up & Go.
Some days, and seasons of life, can zap our energy faster than a couple of rounds with Mohammed Ali, can’t they? If running late is your only workout, yet you’re still zapped at the end of the day, you’re not alone. Over 75% of us feel tired many days of the week.
The good news is, there’s no need to carry on feeling worn out. We can shed that sloth like feeling and recapture our get up and go when we Keep Moving Forward PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY & SPIRITUALLY.
In Week 1, I talked about what it looks like to keep moving forward physically. If you missed it you can catch up here, and if you’ve put some of the steps into practice do share in the comments below how it’s gone and how you’re feeling.
This week we’re going to Keep Moving Forward EMOTIONALLY
Let’s be honest. Unless we grew up in a vacuum, or on Little House on the Prairie, we all have emotional baggage. Yours might be cute, matching, carryon baggage or more like my cardboard box shrink-wrapped in airport security tape, but either way, we all lug around our emotional baggage.
Unlike physical baggage, emotional baggage doesn’t come with easy glide wheels or a retractable handle, and unfortunately it doesn’t get lost as easily as airline baggage or dealt with by the bomb squad if we leave it unattended.
We can hide our unresolved emotional issues in an adorable designer handbag or a functional back pack, but at the end of the day we still have to carry it around.[Tweet “We can hide our unresolved emotional issues in an adorable designer handbag or a functional back pack, but at the end of the day we still have to carry it around.”]
Dragging it through life like a ball and chain is exhausting and we either end up falling into an exhausted heap or tripping over as we navigate life. Or in my case, both! Let me explain.
Al has become quite a runner recently and the other morning he innocently asked me if I had seen his running shorts. Suddenly, in an ugly explosion of unresolved issues, I lashed out with a passive aggressive comment worthy of a sulky teenager.
You see, our kids are doing their own laundry this summer and the laundry room is a big hot mess. Swim gear, dance wear and lacrosse jerseys compete for space, while stray socks make a bid for freedom down the stairs. It’s driving me crazy and I mean CRRRRRAAAAAZY!
You don’t need to be a genius to see that Al’s shorts weren’t the real reason for my outburst. Digging deep into the uncomfortable waters of my emotions, I figured out that unresolved control issues were the true culprit. This uncontrollable pile of smelly sports gear was just the tip larger control issues I’ve been hauling around for years.
Do you ever find yourself over reacting like that, when emotions you’ve carefully stuffed in the overhead bin of life fall out having shifted during the flight?
When we continually move forward emotionally, dealing with unresolved issues and emotions as they come up, we lighten the load we are lugging around and reduce the risk of tripping over and injuring ourselves and those we love.[Tweet “When we continually move forward emotionally, dealing with unresolved issues and emotions as they come up, we lighten the load we are lugging around and reduce the risk of tripping over and injuring ourselves and those we love.”]
You’ll be relieved to know I’m working on my control issues, and here are some of the ways that I’m doing it. Let me encourage you to do the same and move forward emotionally to recapture your get up and go.
10 STEPS TO MOVING FORWARD EMOTIONALLY
1)Notice something is happening.
Emotions are thoughts plus body sensations. Often our body tells us we are feeling something before we are aware of it emotionally. Are your hands sweating? Heart beating faster? Is there a pit in your stomach?
2)Breath to slow time.
Brene Brown, amongst others, recommends box breathing to calm anxiety and buy time to figure out what is going on. My version is to slowly breath in Jesus, with all His peace, hope, trust and love, hold for four counts, then slowly breath out the mix of feelings and sensations charging through my body.
3)Identify the emotion.
Have a stab at naming the emotion. Most emotions fall in one of 4 categories. Happiness sadness, anxiety and anger.
4)Talk with someone.
Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, talking to a trusted friend or family member helps us process and figure out what is going on, reducing the burden of the emotion that’s tiring us out.
Putting our thoughts down on paper helps bring order, perspective and healing, especially when we ask God to meet us in our ramblings.
6)Visualize giving it God.
I like to imagine putting the emotion and/or what caused the emotion, at the foot of the cross and walking away. God’s got it. Jesus said “Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden (with emotional baggage) and I will give you rest” Matt 11:28 (italics are mine).”[Tweet ““Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden (with emotional baggage) and I will give you rest” Matt 11:28 (italics are mine).”]
7)Identify the source of the emotion.
As you chat with a friend or journal you may see a pattern or unearth the causes of your emotions. Can you remove the source or at least reduce its impact?
8)Offer Grace and forgiveness where needed.
Do you need to forgive someone? Make amends? Extended grace, or walk away from a relationship or environment you’re in?
9)Repeating God’s Promises.
God’s promises cover every emotion under the sun and repeating them brings peace and calm to our weary, emotionally raw souls. (I’ve got some lovely printed promises you can download.)
10)Seek Professional Help.
Sometimes we need a little help from someone who knows how to untangle our knot of emotions and their causes. Therapists and counselors are brilliant at helping us process what is going on and work out solutions.
Do you feel your emotions are weighing you down, tiring you our and holding you back? How do you deal with them? Have you found a way to manage them in a healthy way to free you up and refresh you?
Before you head off to retrieve your emotional baggage from lost and found, let me leave you with these wise words from Rachel Van Dyeken. I think the same can be said for emotional baggage don’t you?